Relationships have their ups and downs, with occasional disagreements or arguments. Most people will feel frustrated, disappointed or angry with a relative or partner at some point. But there’s a difference between a healthy level of disagreement and using violence and control. If your partner or relative feels too intimidated, threatened or frightened to have their say, the balance of power in the relationship is no longer equal – regardless of whether or not you intended for that to happen.
“I never thought the kids would pick up on it. I’m always sure not to start things with their mum in front of them, only when they’re asleep. But I remember what it was like for me growing up; hearing my parents fight in the other room, seeing mum shaken up in the morning, feeling scared when dad would come home… There was no way I wanted my kids growing up with that, I knew something had to change.” – Aaron
Have you ever:
- Made your partner or kids feel scared?
- Shouted or screamed at a family member?
- Called a family member insulting or belittling names?
- Not allowed your partner to spend money for their personal use?
- Slapped, hit, pushed or shoved a family member – or threatened to?
- Thrown something in your partner’s or kids’ presence, such as a glass, a chair or tv remote?
- Pressured your partner into doing something sexual that they didn’t want to?
These are just some examples of the ways men use violent or controlling behaviours in relationships. If you answered yes to any of these questions, it’s time you gave us a call.
Men’s Referral Service
1300 766 491
It can be tough facing up to difficult problems and asking for help. We can help you access services to make the changes you need to so that you can be safe around your partner and family.
When you call us:
- You can remain anonymous – you don’t need to give us your name or any identifying details
- We will listen to you and treat you with respect
- We will do our best to help you
- We will provide you with referrals to local services that will help you take the next steps